"How to orgasm?" is a big question that has come up on WTF: Questions You’d Ask Your Sex Therapist If Only You Had One. In Part II we explored how mentally-driven achieving orgasm can be for women. Why? Who the hell knows. Frankly this bugged me until I got more adept at fantasy, and then I thought it was the coolest thing since menthol lube. Learning to masturbate really well -- to reach MY special kinds of orgasms that work for me -- was a huge step I took in owning my sexuality. And it happened decades after I first learned to orgasm. This is not a simple skill, and I think it can take a lifetime to master.

There's only one place to start -- touching yourself. There’s more to masturbating than just being comfortable in your own head. With rare exception (some women can get off without actually touching themselves) we need to touch ourselves or be touched to generate those feelings that result in orgasm.

So, ladies, touch yourselves.