I talk to a lot of women about how to make baby-making sex hot again. Whether you are in the midst of trying to conceive or even going through infertility -- anytime you are looking for a baby while trying to get your hot sexy self going, the entire escapade can feel like a very cold shower.

Not exactly what we'd call sexy

The fact is, one of the hardest parts of trying to conceive is what it can do to your sex life. I remember being told that I had “Hostile Cervical Mucus”… now isn’t that hot? “Come on, Honey -- don’t you want me and my hostile vagina?!!!” Doesn’t that feel welcoming? Well – it didn’t to me. I felt like my body was saying that it didn’t want to receive my husband and my husband’s potential babies. It rocked my world (and I don't mean that in a good way). For a while I was really shut down sexually. I felt like my body was not warm and welcoming…I felt the opposite of sexy. I didn’t feel fertile and lush. I was everything that was not. Just think of the other diagnoses…”habitual aborter” or “premature ovarian failure”….I mean, this is really sexy stuff.