
Some fathers bring the gift of rule-stretching to their parenting: sneaking out for an ice cream before dinner, showing P.G. 13 movies if they feature hyper-space, sending the kids off to the park with a box of Twinkies and a four pack of Monsters. This conveniently elevates fathers into the “nice guy” role. But women, especially mothers, bring their own gifts. One of which is an intuition so acute the brokers on Wall Street dream of possessing it; preferably in a handy pocket inhaler.
Read More...Dear Pinkies, please welcome back my Pink Mom Trish Rankin, here with some insight on heroes. Thank you, Mommy, for reminding us all that we are brave and powerful. Take it away ....
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A while back, a conversation Lissa and I had about being a mom and an entrepreneur struck a chord in both of us and produced her wonderful post on birthing what wants to be born. That post produced a moving discussion about the choices we make about where our amazing, female creative energy goes - into babies, projects, passions and work. As I sat with this and let the words of Pinkie wisdom seep into me, a wondrous thing happened I want to share with you. I felt some of the tangle of my personal confusion on this subject begin to unravel. When I told Lissa and Joy they encouraged me to untangle and reweave in public in the hopes that it might be useful to others. And so here I share some of my tapestry-in-progress with you. Blessings to you in your personal struggles and choices as you release your own amazing creative powers. ~Dana
The Origins of Pain
I saw a patient today who inspired me- let’s call her Sally. She suffers from a host of medical conditions that threaten to rob you of your mojo- fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, and chronic pelvic pain. When this young woman walked into my office, she looked like crap. Before looking at her chart, I thought she had cancer. Gaunt and pale, her skin hung on her skeleton like she was in the last grip of life. During the first half hour, she didn’t smile once. I felt the anxious tug we doctors feel when we see people like this, the one that says “I’m not going to be able to help this person,” which triggers insecurities and, often, judgments, in our own minds. It becomes about us, rather than being about them. We have a tendency to turn off because we don’t want to fail. But I vowed not to do this. Sitting in her presence, I was determined to be present for Sally and sit with whatever is true, rather than letting my own stuff get in the way.
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A Pinkie just posted a comment in response to Fred Kraziese’s post God, Angels, Life and Moving On, and it inspired me to write a few words about the secrets that we keep. We learn to keep secrets from the time we’re very young.
Okay, so I haven’t actually left the house much this year. When you’re practicing medicine, you go to the office every day, which means you wake up every morning, brush your hair, put on a little eyeliner and maybe a little lipstick if you were on call the night before, and you find an outfit that makes you look simultaneously cool and professional ( a tough balance, but one I got pretty good at). I could do it in my sleep, and on those post-call days, I pretty much did. But it’s been over a year since I lived that life.