"I need to talk. During sex," he said.

"Okay..." I said. That was fine with me. 

"I mean, I have to talk. A lot. Like the whole time."

Did you know that only female mammals have a clitoris; an organ with one singular purpose? That purpose is your pleasure, made possible in part by the 8,000 nerve endings, twice that of the average penis, innervating the female fun button.

Remember the famous scene from When Harry Met Sally?  Harry swears that all his girlfriends are having O-O-Orgasms during sex and Sally questions his bravado. She wonders how he’s so sure his girlfriends aren't just faking it. He insists he would know. Sally then delivers an orgasmic performance that made cinematic history. 

Oh - oh- oh yeah, baby. 

So, what is the big deal about sex and orgasms? I recently came across this question sent in to the WTF? Questions You’d Ask Your Sex Therapist If Only You Had One post. Of course, if you’re trying to have a baby, the answer is pretty simple, but I didn’t think the questioner was really asking about the procreative aspects of sex. My first personal reaction was “because it’s fun!” But then it occurred to me that I know people who feel guilty when they experience sexual fun, which makes it difficult for them to fully enjoy it, much less own their sexuality fully and freely. This struck me as too bad, and I got curious to see if there were other reasons to have sex – reasons that might help them overcome the guilt. I poked around a little and came up with some good stuff.