
Thanksgiving in the U.S. is here! As I’ve been preparing for the onslaught of family and celebration, I’ve been reflecting on what the holidays mean to me.
Especially in relation to my body and body image.
Because let’s be honest, I’ve spent basically every Thanksgiving of my life stuffed and miserable.
It’s the perfect holiday for (recovering) binge eaters like me — our behavior doesn’t seem unusual on days when it’s normalized for everyone.

It’s that time of year again. You either love Valentines Day or hate it, depending on whether you have a special someone in your life. This time around I discovered that special someone is myself. I have truly become my own beloved and the feeling this truth gives me is rich and serene. When I first heard that phrase - “become your own beloved” - I thought it sounded really new-agey and cheesy. Perhaps because I had yet to discover the richness in it and really own it. I’m on my way to having a deep knowing of it now.
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Did you know that only female mammals have a clitoris; an organ with one singular purpose? That purpose is your pleasure, made possible in part by the 8,000 nerve endings, twice that of the average penis, innervating the female fun button.
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“There is a secret about human love that is commonly overlooked: Receiving it is much more scary and threatening than giving it. How many times in your life have you been unable to let in someone’s love or even pushed it away? Much as we proclaim the wish to be truly loved, we are often afraid of that, and so find it difficult to open to love or let it all the way in.” –John Welwood
Read More...Remember the famous scene from When Harry Met Sally? Harry swears that all his girlfriends are having O-O-Orgasms during sex and Sally questions his bravado. She wonders how he’s so sure his girlfriends aren't just faking it. He insists he would know. Sally then delivers an orgasmic performance that made cinematic history.
Oh - oh- oh yeah, baby.
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A long to-do list sits before me, but I set it all down to plan my birthday dinner with friends even though it’s more than a month away.
I’m looking at the menu of a local vegan restaurant about which I've heard rave reviews, but have never been to. Listen to this first dish: whole wheat tortilla with spicy butternut and black bean chili, ground walnut chorizo, zucchini tahini nacho cheese, scallion, avocado and roasted red pepper sour cream served with blue corn chips. Just reading the description of this first item makes me want to go shopping at the local market and fill my basket with fresh ingredients to whip up an amazing feast. The restaurant has just opened a cocktail lounge too, with “fresh juice cocktails” like The Lemon Bomb with lemongrass and cardamom infused vodka, fresh lemon juice, agave and soda.

So maybe the bustle of the giving-to-everyone-else is over, or maybe it's not for you. But in my continual effort to help us all bring our sexuality fully into our lives -- attacking that last bastion of self liberation keeping so many of us from being all us all the time -- I want to give YOU a gift this holiday season. If you're like so many of us -- feeling guilty about taking time to yourself or taking time to pleasure yourself -- I want to give you permission to do so. (And if you don't feel guilty, I want to give you an excuse!)
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