Do you long to have a juicier sex life but simply don’t know where to start? Have you quit even fantasizing about spicing up your sex life, moving beyond the missionary position, or feeling hot for your partner and yourself again? If you feel that way, you’re not alone.

After giving birth, suffering through my Perfect Storm, and completely losing my mojo, sex was the last thing on my mind. Plus, I tend to be so cerebral that I lose touch with my body completely for hours, even days on end. Then I started exploring ways to enliven the sexual creature within me. I took a class at Sheila Kelley’s S Factor (the pole dancing exercise classes that teach you to “feel your fur” and move like the sensual being we all are) and attended Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts.

Have my efforts transformed me into the evolved, divine sex goddess I long to be? No, not yet. But I’m getting closer. (Just ask my hubby.)