I’m going to skip over the enlightenment of step one. The given is that the first step to getting what you want is knowing what you want. I acknowledge some people need to work through articulating what they want without the expectations of others and their own self imposed fears and etc……but really, that’s a post for another day. Today, I’m skipping right to step two because that’s where I sometimes get caught up.

I love dating. More so than dating, I love men. I celebrate men. They are incredible, strong, fun and so wonderful to interact with. I like meeting for coffee dates, dinner dates  or having phone dates. I like putting on my walking shoes and having a date in the park and I love dressing up, 7 inch heels included and doing something fancy. You want to go to the museum? Sure. Art gallery? Of course. A movie? I’d love too. A dance club? I hope you can keep up.

Last week, Anne-Marie Slaughter, Princeton Professor extraordinaire and former State Department Policy Director, took a break from writing about Syria and US-Mexican relations to write a sincere and heart-felt article in The Atlantic lamenting the reality that as women move into powerful positions – the kind that demand “no life” of whomever takes them regardless of gender – “having it all” becomes impossible. She questions whether we’ve sold Gen-Y women a load of bunk with the “you can have it all” claim. The article, entitled “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,” also gently takes Sheryl Sandberg (COO, Facebook) to task for encouraging young women to lean in and go for the top spots as though if they don’t it’s a bad thing (as expressed most clearly in her TED talk and Barnard graduation speech last year.

I’m so excited (nervous) to share the release of my memoir Seeing Red: A Woman’s Quest for Truth, Power and the Sacred with you. Long time in the coming, publishing this intimate story marks the completion of one era of my life and the beginning of a new, in which my writerly self takes center stage.