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Kim Anami's picture

Are We There Yet?

Are We There Yet?

I recently came off of a body-and-soul-blowing weeklong retreat with a group of beautiful and courageous lovers. Amidst the lush jungle in Bali, removed from everyday life and in a heightened emotional and sexual world, we saw miraculous transformations.

Lissa Rankin's picture

One Strategy For Improving The Health Of Your Relationships


Every relationship in your life is a sacred contract, and whether you’re aware of it or not, you’ve made agreements with the people in your life, the ones who will be your greatest teachers.  We often make these contracts without being mindful of what we’re agreeing to. For example, in my sacred contract with my husband, we made an unspoken deal. I had just gotten out of an abusive marriage, and what I needed from him was safety and the certainty that he’d never hurt me the way I had been hurt before. My hubby, on the other hand, had spent much of his life trying to please people he loves with achievements (the man has many graduate degrees and was about to get another one when I first met him.) I agreed to love him without expecting him to achieve anything. He agreed to keep me safe.

Michael Eisen's picture

To My Father With Love


Dearest Dad:

In twenty-eight years as father and son, we certainly have had our ups and downs! But I want you to know that I am truly grateful for every single moment. You are my greatest teacher and my greatest friend.

Marcia Wieder's picture

The Power Of Friendship


Friendship is one of the first types of exterior relationships we experience as a child and one of the most natural connections we have with other human beings.  We discover so much about ourselves from our interactions with others, especially when formulating our own malleable personalities, expectations and framework for the kind of friendship(s) we desire for the rest of our lives.

Lissa Rankin's picture

The Vulnerability Of Exposing Your Dark Side

Big Ugly Tail

To expose our wounds to people we care about – the icky stuff, the ego stuff, the personal growth edges we’re working on that we haven’t yet mastered – is super vulnerable. Letting others see our “big ugly tails” (hat tip to my dear friend Amy Ahlers, who has seen my big ugly tail and trusted me enough to let me see hers) tends to trigger all our core fears of rejection and abandonment, of withdrawal of love. But to bear witness to someone’s wound is a privilege and an opportunity to deepen the relationship beyond the idealistic views we might have of each other into the real truth of both our light and our shadows.

Sarah Haykel's picture

Loving Myself Into Love


Loving myself into Love

I remember flying out that afternoon on my first trip to Cuba, anticipating what was to be, having no idea what to expect.  It was June 19th and I opened up the little pocket book a dear friend had given me months before and began to write an intention for the trip.  I was meeting some dear friends from Hawaii and we were to meet up with a couple of others from around the country.  This is what I wrote:

Monica Wilcox's picture

Stop Romanticizing Motherhood

Mommy and Me,  Photographers: Sofia Sanchez and Mauro Mongiello

Mother’s Day is on the calendric horizon. The Mother of The Year Awards have begun. These lucky women will have a celebrity chef deliver their breakfast in bed, take an exotic trip to Bora Bora, or win a year’s supply of Tide.

Sheena LaShay's picture

The Relationship Is Dead. Stop Kissing It.

I should take my own advice. Seldom do we do that though. Years ago, a guy I knew bemoaned about an ex who was still his ex. The situation was complicated, although in retrospect it reminds me of a former relationship I was in. I forgot about that at the time when my words to him lacked a bit of grace. As he bemoaned missing her and wanting her and trying to make it work again even though it was MORE than obvious to EVERYONE else that it would NEVER work, I just couldn’t take it anymore.

Jennifer Pastiloff's picture

Mastering The Art Of Losing After Elizabeth Bishop


The art of losing isn't hard to master;

so many things seem filled with the intent

to be lost that their loss is no disaster.

Lose something every day. Accept the fluster

of lost door keys, the hour badly spent.

The art of losing isn't hard to master.

Then practice losing farther, losing faster:

places, and names, and where it was you meant 

to travel. None of these will bring disaster.

 ~Elizabeth Bishop from One Art

I read this poem in my yoga class tonight. It's been calling me so I went and picked it up.

So many things lost. My friend’s baby is dying and tonight when I asked her what I could do for her she simply said curse the fucking world that would do this to a baby.

Stacey Curnow's picture

How To Turn A Relationship “Mistake” Into A Strength

As Joko Beck, an American Buddhist nun, writes in Everyday Zen:

So a relationship is a great gift, not because it makes us happy—it often doesn’t—but because any intimate relationship, if we view it as practice, is the clearest mirror we can find.

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