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How To Change The World, One Girl At A Time

The Girl Effect

Even with razor sharp parenting skills you can’t keep a child free from society’s notions. My 11 year old daughter is here to prove it. “If I were to get a doctorate, would people have to call me ‘doctor’ because I really hate that idea?  ‘Doctor’ sounds way too boyish.  It sounds like a name only boys should have.”

Is this my child?

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How to Tell the Difference Between Lust and Love

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Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff's Guide to Intuitive Healing: 5 Steps to Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Wellness 

As a psychiatrist, I’ve seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Why? Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate. Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs. MRI scans illustrate that the same area lights up when an addict gets a fix of cocaine as when a person is experiencing the intense lust of physical attraction. Also in the early stage of a relationship, when the sex hormones are raging, lust is fueled by idealization and projection - you see what you hope someone will be or need them to be - rather than seeing the real person, flaws and all.

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When Mom Brings Out The Worst In You

Lissa Rankin

My daughter Siena and I spent much of the summer at my mother’s lake house in Ohio. It was the longest I had lived in my mother’s house since I was in college. And to make it even weirder, Ohio was not my home. (My parents are the only people I know who sold their beach house in Florida to retire in Ohio.) So I felt a bit like a fish out of water in the first place.

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On Death & Loss: Wake Me Up When September Ends?

Elizabeth Wencl

In a few short days the month of September will be upon us.  As I type these words, I can physically feel my stomach flip-flopping and a knot beginning to form.  What’s wrong with September you ask?  Technically … nothing  … I do enjoy the last days of summer and the soon-to-be fall weather.

But my oldest daughter’s birthday and the day she died are both in the month of September.  September brings up so many memories … both the good and the painful.

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The Summer of Love


Lissa Rankin

I just returned to San Francisco after spending the summer with my mother and my daughter. Three generations of Rankin women spent five weeks at my mother’s Ohio lake house - swimming, Slip ‘n’ Sliding, coloring, reading, kayaking, tubing, eating watermelon off our chins, boating, making pottery, square-dancing, cruising around in golf carts, sculpting sandstone, licking ice cream, hiking, trolling through Amish country, riding rollercoasters, singing, sliding down flumes, and doing lots and lots of hugging.

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How to Experience A Deep & Intimate Soul Connection

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I just got back from the beach where I was watching the sunset and gentle waves, and thought to write to you what is deep in my heart right now. If you are an old soul, you will know what I am feeling here, I’m sure.

Today was one of those strange days of feeling a bit weird about everything. As usual, I was looking for deeper answers to what I was feeling, what is REALLY going on inside, and how to make sense of it all. I know I am not alone in feeling weird at times, especially as things keep heating up and heating up, and shifting at tremendous speed – we are all living in extra-ordinary times are we not?

So here's what I've come to realize…let me know if this resonates with you.
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The Confident Vulnerable Heart

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Please join us in welcoming Owning Pink's newest blogger, loveologist  and author Wendy Strgar.  *Claps wildly*

“The supreme reality of our time is the vulnerability of this planet.”  -John Fitzgerald Kennedy

The life of the heart is one of contradictions. It is where our greatest strengths are often our most profound weaknesses. Finding balance between seemingly opposing forces or feelings is key to finding balance in love. I can’t think of any two more complementary forces for love than the capacity for vulnerability and the experience of confidence. Consider each one on its own: The confident but invulnerable heart can be brash, ego driven and unavailable. The confidence does not serve because it is not tempered. The vulnerable insecure heart is pitiful, full of self doubt and starts to resemble childlike dependence. It is easy to see how the vulnerability of childhood is easily confused with its more mature adult version.

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To Battered Women Everywhere - Just Go Get A Pedicure???

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In response to the Obama Administration’s decision to have insurance companies cover the costs of counseling for battered women, (and other benefits), Fox News contributor Sandy Rios made the following statement:

“Is the White House out of their mind? Does the West Wing not know what the left wing is doing? We’re $14 trillion in debt and now we’re going to cover birth control, breast pumps, counseling for abuse? Are we going to do pedicures and manicures as well?”  (Read more here and here.)

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An Open Letter To Anyone Who Doesn’t Like How I Live My Life


I’m not the type to cut people off. Yes, relationships grow apart. Sacred contracts end. But I don’t ditch you if you piss me off or hurt my feelings. I initiate open communication. I tell you I’m hurt. But I don’t build the Great Wall of China between us or block your phone calls.

I’m not suggesting that every relationship should be mended. Some are probably better left torn apart. But if you - like me - feel saddened by someone who has cut you out of their life, then you’ll get where I’m coming from. This letter is for anyone who disagrees with how I live my life enough to cut me out. (You know who you are.) And it’s for anyone else who doesn’t like how you live your life too. Feel free to pass it on. . . 

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Permission To Break My Heart

Princesses Vivien & Siena

My five year old daughter Siena fell in love recently. It was with another girl - a five year old princess named Vivien, who lives in a castle in Chicago and is the daughter of my best friend Katsy.

Siena and Vivien have known each other since they were three months old, but they haven’t actually seen each other since. They’ve only heard stories. Siena has heard great tales of Princess Vivien, and Vivien has heard the wondrous stories of Siena and her fairy magic.

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