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To Battered Women Everywhere - Just Go Get A Pedicure???

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In response to the Obama Administration’s decision to have insurance companies cover the costs of counseling for battered women, (and other benefits), Fox News contributor Sandy Rios made the following statement:

“Is the White House out of their mind? Does the West Wing not know what the left wing is doing? We’re $14 trillion in debt and now we’re going to cover birth control, breast pumps, counseling for abuse? Are we going to do pedicures and manicures as well?”  (Read more here and here.)

Lissa Rankin's picture

An Open Letter To Anyone Who Doesn’t Like How I Live My Life


I’m not the type to cut people off. Yes, relationships grow apart. Sacred contracts end. But I don’t ditch you if you piss me off or hurt my feelings. I initiate open communication. I tell you I’m hurt. But I don’t build the Great Wall of China between us or block your phone calls.

I’m not suggesting that every relationship should be mended. Some are probably better left torn apart. But if you - like me - feel saddened by someone who has cut you out of their life, then you’ll get where I’m coming from. This letter is for anyone who disagrees with how I live my life enough to cut me out. (You know who you are.) And it’s for anyone else who doesn’t like how you live your life too. Feel free to pass it on. . . 

Lissa Rankin's picture

Permission To Break My Heart

Princesses Vivien & Siena

My five year old daughter Siena fell in love recently. It was with another girl - a five year old princess named Vivien, who lives in a castle in Chicago and is the daughter of my best friend Katsy.

Siena and Vivien have known each other since they were three months old, but they haven’t actually seen each other since. They’ve only heard stories. Siena has heard great tales of Princess Vivien, and Vivien has heard the wondrous stories of Siena and her fairy magic.

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How to Handle Unsupportive People

Social Support

Congratulations! You’ve taken the first steps toward living a healthy lifestyle or maybe you’re already a wellness warrior vet. In any event, you’ve grabbed the unicorn reigns of your present and future, and for that I want to give you a virtual hallelujah! Yet, sometimes making healthy choices can be tough – not only on a personal level, but on a social one. So how do we deal with unsupportive friends, family, co-workers and strangers? Here are some of my personal tips; but I know you have a slew of suggestions too; so share ’em in the comments, love!

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What Does Every Woman Want?

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I don’t know what I’ve been doing for the past 25 years. I must have had my head up my arse to have missed reading Dr. Bernie Siegel’sLove, Medicine & Miracles: Lessons Learned About Self-Healing From A Surgeon’s Experience With Exceptional Patients. But I’m reading it now as research for my next book The Prescripton: 5 Spiritual Steps To Healing Yourself From Illness, Trauma, Or Loss. And holy AWESOME SAUCE, Batman!

By page 3, I was madly in love with Dr. Bernie Siegel (who doesn’t wear a white coat and prefers to be called Bernie). By page 27, I was crying my eyes out. By page 61, I decided I must have read this book in a past life because so much of it mirrors what I have already written (so much so that some will surely think I’m knocking off Bernie). And by page 76, when I read, “The simple truth is, happy people generally don’t get sick. Ones attitude towards oneself is the single most important factor in healing or staying well,” I knew I had to meet this remarkable doctor.

So I wrote to him after my friend and mentor Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen, author of Kitchen Table Wisdom and a long time friend of Bernie’s, gave me his email address. 

Turns out he’s even more awesome than I imagined. Not only has he been guiding me in helping a patient who really needs love and support; he’s also a Yale surgeon who believes love heals, hugs his patients, employs the use of art therapy, and thinks we need to revolutionize the way we deliver health care. He’s also a Renaissance man - a poet, an artist, the author of many books, and a genuine, authentic man who really cares, as well as a role model for doctors like me and an inspiration for millions of patients around the world.

I could keep gushing, but instead, let me introduce you to my new friend and Owning Pink’s newest blogger - Dr. Bernie Siegel (cue wild applause!) Take it away, Bernie!

- Lissa 

What Does Every Woman Want

By Bernie Siegel, MD

Many years ago a childhood friend of mine, due to a gambling addiction, got into a difficult situation involving some very significant debts. One day he shared with me that the organized crime group involved had threatened to break every bone in his body or worse if he did not pay up. He said when he told them he had no funds available and asked if he could repay the debt in some other way he was told that if he married the crime lord’s daughter they would let him off.

Lissa Rankin's picture

How To Have “The Talk” With Your Daughter

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As part of my UbyKotex corporate spokesperson job, I was recently interviewed by Breezy Mama about how to have “the talk” about puberty, periods, and sexual development with your daughter. Since I’m already having the talk and many of you might need to do the same, I wanted to share it with you here!

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Eulogy of a Sister Goddess

Susan Aisha Masri

As I wrote about here Susan Aisha Masri was “pregnant with stars” - and she announced it in front of 250 Sister Goddesses last year at Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts.  And now my heart is breaking because Susan Aisha is herself among the stars as heaven’s newest angel after succumbing to cancer this week.

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3 Steps to a Magical Relationship: School for Kings and Queens of Love

Magical Relationship

Making relationships magical is really about making yourself magical and sharing that magic with another magical human being.

Lissa Rankin's picture

For All the New Moms Who Feel Clueless

Lately, I've been talking to a lot of new mothers who feel so much pressure to have it all together and don't feel safe expressing how overwhelming it can be to have a child. If you have a new baby, and you’re feeling like you have no clue how to be a mother, you’re SO not alone. When my daughter Siena was born, I felt so unraveled by her, as if she could see right through me to all my insecurities. I wrote this in my journal when she was just a wee one, so if you or someone you love has a new baby, this post is for you...

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